Together Time homework
Cast your mind back to pre-parent
days – were you Wednesday regulars
at the races? Did you like to run or
train together? Were you always
checking out the latest restaurants?
Or, did you have regular mini-
breaks somewhere new, or duck off
to recharge in a favourite city for the
weekend? Whatever it was, get your
diaries out and set a date to enjoy
something you know you’ll both love.
Try a staycation here in Hong
Kong. A night away at a hotel can
do wonders for city-lovers, or get off
the grid and go camping on Lantau
for an evening of cuddling under the
stars.
Space: the power of time alone
It might feel counter-intuitive, but
nurturing your individual selves and
spending time without each other
could be the missing link to bringing
you back together. This space
includes both time to socialize with
friends without your partner, and
time spent completely alone.
Some couples tend to jump in
and try to rescue or fix each other
when times are tough, but this can
also be a problem. “You need to give
your partner space to identify their
own needs, to self-soothe and allow
emotions to surface,” says Dr Ghazi.
“Your partner will go through phases
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