inyour opinion
A
bsolutely not! It was wonderful not knowing,
imagining, dreaming, guessing... and then
the wonderful confirmation on arrival! My first
daughter was born in Spain where everyone finds
out and our paperwork had to have “DO NOT TELL” in big
letters on the top. –
Sonia
L
ife has so few
surprises, so why
not let this be the
biggest surprise of one’s
life? My husband and I
are expecting our first
child in December. We
intentionally decided
not to find out and wait
until the birth. We both
feel the excitement of
waiting and speculating
through the nine
months’ journey is
something we both will
cherish. –
Tarana
N
o. My doctor said something
very profound at one of our
visits: “Very few things in life
are a surprise; having a baby without
knowing the sex is one of them.” He
was so right! I have two boys and
a girl and didn’t find out for any of
them. –
Alicia
W
e found out when my mom
opened the “secret envelope”
from the doctor and said, “It's a HE!”
She was just so excited, she forgot her
promise not to tell us!
–Michelle
I
was dying to know
when I was expecting
my first; my husband
was not so keen and
wanted a surprise. We had
agreed that we wouldn’t
find out, but during the
20-week scan when the
doctor asked if we had
any questions, I couldn't
resist!
–Jo
N
o for the first baby because we
wanted the surprise. But, the
next two? Yes, because as an
experienced parent you understand the
preparation involved.
–Bernadette
W
e didn’t want to find out for
any of our three kids. When I
was expecting my second, the
doctor asked if we’d like to know and we
both said no quite clearly; however, he
told us anyway! We both pretended we
didn’t hear. But as we were leaving his
office, he said again, “Did I tell you that
it’s a boy?”
–Reshma
W
e found out
all three
times. Hubby
really wanted to know
(he hates surprises). I
wouldn’t have minded
either way, so we went
with what he wanted.
–Nicole
Y
es, I did because I didn’t want
my baby shower to be a white
celebration. So many friends
complained about gender-
neutral clothes and gifts, so I made sure
mine was a baby blue party.
–Michelle
W
hen I was
expecting
my twins,
we didn’t find out
as there are so very
few real surprises that
are fun and exciting.
The important thing
was that the babies
were healthy. But it
did mean we had to
have four different
names ready!
–Jo
Y
es, mainly
for naming
purposes – it
didn’t matter
one way or another,
but it was helpful
for name choices!
–Nonhlanhla
Y
es, we found out, despite
very clearly and repeatedly
asking the doc and his staff
not to let us know. But a forgetful
nurse handed me a scan result
for insurance purposes that read
“healthy baby boy”. I chose
to not tell my husband, so at
least one of us could have the
beautiful surprise in the delivery
room.
–Rita
W
e’re mature
parents, and
had to do
more health checks
because of our age, so
we did find out.
–Eunice
We asked:
When you were
out the gender before
the baby was born?
Why or why not?
:
expecting, did you
find out the gender
before the baby
was born?
OOPS!
NO
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